88man rise to 8 - Page 2

88man · 01-09-2006, 04:34 AM

Well I would like to say that i have a new final goal. I would like to be the crazy number nine. I have a very strong motivation about getting there. My only problem is: will i hurt my girlfriend when we finally have sex??? I have taken a caveman approach to how deep her vagina is, and it's only as deep as my index finger. This is what worries me. I know i might really hurt her when we do, this isint something i want. Will she stretch deeper. I mean if we were to have sex now i would hurt her for sure.

10 · 01-09-2006, 04:43 AM

Have the two of you not consumated your relationship and has she not seen your tool yet??

If you fear 9" might hurt her, try emphasizing girth instead. This is just a thought of course but if you're really concerned about causing her pain or discomfort, why not just stick with 8??

88man · 01-09-2006, 05:22 AM

Oh yeah she has seen my tool. She thinks it's too girthy. She loves my size by all means but i think that she might stretch or something by the time we do have sex. She is a virgen, and im not expectin to have sex very soon with her due to her parents beleifs and the fear of god they strike in her about sex. It's fine with me. She wants to go for it but her parents, and her beleifs are in the back of her mind!!

10 · 01-09-2006, 01:24 PM

Parents have a way of doing that 88. How old is she may I ask? See, I'm a father of two daughters also, and I would gladly strike the fear into both of them about sex although I don't want either of them to turn out like prudes or anything.......especially not considering they've got a daddy who likes sex, porn and everything in between, but I think you get my drift.

How old is she may I ask? If she's a virgin, you'll have to go easy on her at first as if you're overly endowed, you're most likely going to hurt her. If she wants to go for it then try talking to her to convince her there would be nothing wrong with the two of you having sex. Hey, when I was with my ex wife back in my marriage days, before we got married she always told me she could never, ever have sex in her parents house. Well, guess what........she met me and I changed that. And she's a catholic school girl too!!! hehe

88man · 01-15-2006, 06:07 AM

Please read, i NEED ADVICE!!!
My girlfriend is 18. We are not going to have sex. I have had one of the most horrible ordeals happen. Well my girlfriend and i have been doing oral, and mutual masterbation. Well her mother was so damn scared of us having sex that she wanted to know how far we have gonE. SHE told her and this was a long time ago that we touched eachother and i make her orgasm. She couldnt keep a secret from her mother! A big one that may have determined our relationship! She said she had to tell her. Well yesterday her mother and father dropped her off at my dorm so we could spend some time together. So they went out to a movie. Well around 10:00 rolls around and she decides that she wants to fool around, and im all for it. Well my roommate comes over with his girlfriend so we decide to use the vaccant room accross from mine to be alone. I get her clothes off so we can fool around, and her mother calls and says that they are here and are gonna come and see my dorm. They are out in the courtyard waiting for me to show them which dorm is mine. Needless to say i was late on that.

So she is on her way home with her parents and they ask her "why did it take so long?" she didnt know what to say. So her mother says "i know you had your clothes off" and she friggen admitted to it!!!! Holy crap she admitted it!!! She also told them that we have done oral!!! She told the sex hunters that we had oral and were naked when we did things. So her mother told her that if she ever married me that she better move far far away, and told her that she hated me and all i want is sex when my girlfirend is the sexual one!! She told her mother this and she beleived her. Her mother said alot of other hateful things to her and about me. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO, I NEED SOME ADVICE!!!!!!!!!!!!! PLEASE!!!!

Überschwanz · 01-15-2006, 06:28 AM

It sounds like her mother is the one with the problem. Her daughter is 18 and that means that she is an adult who can make her own decisions. If her mother genuinely says she hates you, then there isn't a whole lot you can do about that. I think you need to have a discussion with your girlfriend and convince her to show some spine around her mother. Just because she's her mother doesn't mean she has a right to demand to know what her ADULT daughter was doing. That's rediculous. Tell your girlfriend that however much it may disturb her to tell her mother off that she needs her mother to realize she's no longer a little girl. If her mother won't accept that, then there isn't much you can hope for. She'll be stubborn like that and possibly lose out on the opportunity to see her daughter happy with someone she loves. I think people sometimes overanalyze and overdramatize sex. People are going to do it regardless of what their parents say. Good luck.

JonPop · 01-15-2006, 03:26 PM

88Man, remember this. You not only marry the daughter, you marry that side of the family as well. This woman would make your life a living hell as a Mother-in-law. Think long and hard about this.

want8 · 01-16-2006, 03:17 PM

88Man, not sure if this is a possibility for you, but, if I were in your shoes, I would talk to her mother myself. Now I am a person that will confront a matter and put it to rest, so this may or may not be something you can do, don't know the entire situation. But, I would let mom know that we have fooled around, had oral sex and other things, but, the reason we have done these things is because you respect her daughter enough that you are waiting until you marry her to have sex. This needs to be handle with tact, but I would talk to your girlfriend about this and maybe the two of you should talk to mom together.

Überschwanz · 01-16-2006, 04:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by want8

This needs to be handle with tact, but I would talk to your girlfriend about this and maybe the two of you should talk to mom together.

I think that's an excellent idea.

want8 · 01-16-2006, 05:35 PM

Thanks Uber. Damn I went back and read my post and I sounded like Dr. Phil! LOL

88man · 01-16-2006, 06:20 PM

OH NO!Thank you for all of your reply's. The day she told me that she rold her parents, and hearing what her mother said i wanted to talk to her. I immediatly thought that her mother had deeper problems with this whole situation. Last night her father wanted me to go to her grandparents house with them for her mothers birthday, so i hesitated but went. I knew that if i went i would show her mother that i wasnt going to cower and never see her daughter again. I was so nervous on the way there that i almost threw up! But i was strong and kept my cool. Her dad was surprisingly cool, he didnt show me any hostility. Im not a pushy person when it comes to sexual things so my girlfriend told me that her father i guess was a pushy person to her mother, and he couldnt see why i wasnt trying to do anything. She told me that her mother wants her to get religious counceling, but i think its her mother thats in need of a shrink! Thanks for your comments, i would like to hear anymore you might have.

Überschwanz · 01-16-2006, 06:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 88man

OH NO!Thank you for all of your reply's. The day she told me that she rold her parents, and hearing what her mother said i wanted to talk to her. I immediatly thought that her mother had deeper problems with this whole situation. Last night her father wanted me to go to her grandparents house with them for her mothers birthday, so i hesitated but went. I knew that if i went i would show her mother that i wasnt going to cower and never see her daughter again. I was so nervous on the way there that i almost threw up! But i was strong and kept my cool. Her dad was surprisingly cool, he didnt show me any hostility. Im not a pushy person when it comes to sexual things so my girlfriend told me that her father i guess was a pushy person to her mother, and he couldnt see why i wasnt trying to do anything. She told me that her mother wants her to get religious counceling, but i think its her mother thats in need of a shrink! Thanks for your comments, i would like to hear anymore you might have.

Her mother sounds like she has trouble separating religion from morality; they are not the same thing.

want8 · 01-16-2006, 09:12 PM

No kidding! Sounds like her mother may have some sort of apprehension towards you because of something she may have done in the past herself, or something she wishes she had done. I would go to her mother and tell her, you love this girl very much and would never do anything to hurt her or her family and their beliefs. Tell her you know she is aware of the fact that you and her daughter have been with each other sexually but haven't had sex and asure her that you are not going to until the two of you get married. By the way, is she an only child? You have to bare in mind that no mother wants to see their child grow up and leave them. I know, I have 2 sons and their mother comments all the time how her boys are growing up to fast and are going to be gone soon. I have the same feelings of course but men don't show this side of themselves as much as women do.

88man · 01-17-2006, 01:05 AM

There are four children in her family. She is the only girl though. The brothers are never punished for anything!

want8 · 01-17-2006, 02:16 PM

Well, being the only girl mom is probably a little over protective on her which is not a bad thing, mom just needs to understand yours and her intentions about the whole sex thing.

88man · 01-17-2006, 07:39 PM

Ok well im still freaking out about the whole thing, but im have some excitement about my progress. I have been using my PM for about a week now. I have been wearing the device for about 8-10 hours a day with a couple of breaks in there. I dont start to get cold until about 2hours. This morning i noticed that i have gained some length. I havnt taken a measurement yet but i am making progress. If i continue to go for 8-10 hours what will i expect to see in gains within 1month1/2???

want8 · 01-17-2006, 07:54 PM

It is possible, although I would just say be careful and don't get over anxious and try to move to fast by adding rods to quickly as this could cause injury. Just follow the instructions and watch the notches on the rods to make sure you are not over doing it.

88man · 01-18-2006, 05:14 PM

When is it ok to add more rods??
Here's my Extended Stretch i came up with. E.S.: I go for a hard stretch for most of the day, and at night i put it in a very comfy light stretch until i go to bed. So i probably go for 6hrs hard stretch and 2hrs and on for the rest of the stretch. Sound good???

Überschwanz · 01-18-2006, 05:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 88man

When is it ok to add more rods??
Here's my Extended Stretch i came up with. E.S.: I go for a hard stretch for most of the day, and at night i put it in a very comfy light stretch until i go to bed. So i probably go for 6hrs hard stretch and 2hrs and on for the rest of the stretch. Sound good???

It's really up to you. Just don't go to pain.

88man · 01-18-2006, 05:29 PM

It never really hurts until the end of the day like 10min before i take it off so i try to take it off when my glands is sore.

10 · 01-18-2006, 11:32 PM

88man:

I just read this thread and I have to tell you, your in for a HUGE battle. Let me explain.

I was married to a woman for 7 years who, like your girlfriend, was the ONLY girl in the family. There were 4 boys and then my now ex wife. Being raised by strict Catholic parents, my ex was raised to do whatever her mother wanted. Period.

So, I come along. A nice, well hung, handsome guy and dated this woman for 5 years. I can't tell you how many times dude my ex would or wouldn't do something because she was afraid of how her mother would react. This included sex!! Keep in mind, my ex at the time was well into her 20's but still afraid of her mother!!

Her brother's could do whatever they wanted......they were grown men. Hell, one of them even bought a house with his girlfriend and still to this day lives in sin with her. My ex was always expected to go to church, be a good girl, obey her parents, yadda yadda yadda. I think you see the similarity here.

This drove me fucking insane for the vast majority of our dating life and well into our marriage. Don't get me wrong, her mother is a wonderful human being and I honestly respect her alot more than my lazy ex wife and we have a fantastic post-marriage relationship but my point here is this: some mother/daughter bonds are extremely powerful. It may take you years and years to even make a dent in this bond. I'm not saying come in between them, I think it's pretty obvious that isn't going to happen. However, you need to be aware that this may have been how she was raised and it isn't going to change UNLESS she stands up for herself to her
mother.

Yes, she's 18 but if her mom has this much power over her to make her do certain things, you're going to have to accept it and deal with it OR move on. I hate to sound harsh but honestly dude, you could spend several years of your life fighting a never ending up hill battle with this. I lived it.......I know. One last excellent point that JP brought to the surface a couple of posts back, you marry her, you MARRY the family.

88man · 01-19-2006, 12:59 AM

Yeah all true. She dosent alwayse think about her mom. She just cant stand her mom; she always destroys their relationship and she ends up hating her mother for the dumbass crap that she pulls. I mean all the things her mother does is totally childish, and not something an adult would do. Pure SHIZITE!

10 · 01-19-2006, 01:19 AM

I'm going to play devil's advocate here for a second. You say she can't stand her mom and that she hates her mother for the childish crap she pulls? Your girlfriend needs to remember that that woman, who IS her mother, gave her life. A child should never, ever hate a parent unless of course it is fully warranted. I have two daughters myself and if either of them ever pulled that type of attitude with me, they'd find themselves in some very, very deep shit with me. So, your girlfriend needs to realize and underdstand that her mother only has the best of intentions for her. It's a parent's perogative to pull dumb ass crap when they want to.

Now, on the flip side of the coin, her mother also needs to realize that your girlfriend is 18, she's an adult and must be allowed to live her life as she chooses. She must learn to let go and give your girlfriend the freedom she's entitled to without playing mental bullshit games with her. Mom's are good at this my friend, mine still does it and I'm 35!!

So, I see both sides of this situation. The girlfriend wants the freedom and the mother still wants to "mother" her. The girlfriend needs to respect her mother for the woman that she is and appreciate her for raising her right. Mom needs to backoff a bit and learn to let go. Hope this advice has been helpful to you.

Chris · 01-19-2006, 02:47 PM

There is more to life than just relationships. I think, although a bit reactive, purhaps the MIL wants to be sure she has a chance to develope a vision to see that. In some ones eyes it's an atempt to control. In another's it is wisdom. Think real hard before you react. Purhaps talk to her, if you can and find out her reasoning. Determin to gain and learn from this. I could be a great learning experience if approached right.

88man · 01-19-2006, 07:18 PM

Thanks, and thank you wanna10incher. She really dosent hate her mom it's just the way she acts towards her. Her dad is the coolest guy about the whole sutuation; he handles everything like a normal person would and understands a little. Hopefully this will go over smoothly with her mom. I dont know when im going to talk to her, but hopefully she wont try to kill me.

10 · 01-19-2006, 11:09 PM

You know what dude, dads are like that. My dad was always cooler about things than my mom was. My mom was the spaz. If either of my daughters told me they were having sex (once they were of the age to be partaking in such activities!!), my main concern would be was it safe sex? Their mother on the other hand.......whew, watch out.

88man · 01-20-2006, 03:09 AM

Well my girlfriend cant take being away from the penis. We made