Married woman - would you mess around? - Page 5

Überschwanz · 02-07-2007, 05:04 PM

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Originally Posted by happy stud

And if you want even greater odds you could say you will see Ubers video on those fucking 3 part dry jelqs sooner than you will having a chick that wants to bone another hot chick.

For the last time, I haven't forgotten about making it. I just don't have the damn time.

10 · 02-08-2007, 01:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Überschwanz

For the last time, I haven't forgotten about making it. I just don't have the damn time.

Come on Ube, relax dude, studly was just messing with you. Don't take it so personally. We're all busy.........

want8 · 02-08-2007, 02:08 PM

No Uber, tell him to shut the hell up!

slickwillie · 02-09-2007, 04:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Überschwanz

For the last time, I haven't forgotten about making it. I just don't have the damn time.

Hey Ube, you just need to find those 2 hot chicks now! Much better way to make a video for all to see...

Überschwanz · 02-09-2007, 05:30 PM

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Originally Posted by slickwillie

Hey Ube, you just need to find those 2 hot chicks now! Much better way to make a video for all to see...

I've got a date with one hot chick next week. Blonde hair, green eyes, and tall.

sikdogg · 02-09-2007, 07:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Überschwanz

I've got a date with one hot chick next week. Blonde hair, green eyes, and tall.

Post pics...

Überschwanz · 02-09-2007, 08:12 PM

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Originally Posted by sikdogg

Post pics...

They're in the mod forum.

10 · 02-11-2007, 08:13 PM

How did you get those pic's anyway?

Überschwanz · 02-11-2007, 08:31 PM

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Originally Posted by 10

How did you get those pic's anyway?

Her MySpace page.

baybabe · 08-07-2008, 11:55 PM

My question for the married women is... Why cheat? Why not get a divorce? If your thinking of being with another man, Leave the first one plain and simple right?

sikdogg · 08-07-2008, 11:59 PM

I think the answer is the same as it would be for men.... cheating gives you the best of both worlds (as long as you don't get caught). It allows you to get the sex or physical attention from someone without hangups or baggage that comes from LTRs and still come home to something comfortable and secure.

baybabe · 08-08-2008, 12:22 AM

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Originally Posted by sikdogg

I think the answer is the same as it would be for men.... cheating gives you the best of both worlds (as long as you don't get caught). It allows you to get the sex or physical attention from someone without hangups or baggage that comes from LTRs and still come home to something comfortable and secure.

ok I see the point but, everyone gets caught so the risk is too high.

W.M.P. · 08-08-2008, 12:23 AM

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still come home to something comfortable and secure.

Secure? Probably.
Comfortable? Well, how comfortable can it really be when you're not getting sexually satisfied in the first place? I've experienced lack of intimacy at some point on a couple of relationships and I gotta say that it gets quite uncomfortable in no time. It makes you go from feeling ubearably horny, to feeling distant, unwanted, unappreciated, taken for granted, which makes you quite resentful to say the least. I honestly think that (apart from cases of chronic sexual addiction) the reason why people cheat is because they're just not being taken care of at home. Even in relationships where everything is "fine & dandy", if those involved let themselves get a little too comfortable or carried away with the stressors of their individual daily lives, forget what separates them from just being friends and forget to nurture the relationship, then that's when one of the 2 (or both) will start getting pulled by the "wandering eye" and start comtemplating the idea of "something new". Like the ole' saying goes: "I you don't take care of your business, someone else will."

southern belle · 08-08-2008, 12:33 AM

I don't condone cheating by either sex, but I think women generally cheat because they aren't getting the attention they are seeking from their husband and sex is just a by-product. Men, though, generally speaking, are probably cheating mostly for the sex.

Jack · 08-08-2008, 01:36 AM

if one had a soul cheating would not be good for it.

Jack

Jack · 08-08-2008, 01:42 AM

I cheat in my mind at times...it is not a whole lot different, just not as intense as the real thing. It still takes energy and distances you from the one you are in a relationship with, at least for me.

So why do I bother with any of itl...that is a loaded question said me. The answer is too long for an email and is probably a bunch of boo crap anyhow.

Jack

southern belle · 08-08-2008, 01:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Jack

I cheat in my mind at times...it is not a whole lot different, just not as intense as the real thing. It still takes energy and distances you from the one you are in a relationship with, at least for me.

So why do I bother with any of itl...that is a loaded question said me. The answer is too long for an email and is probably a bunch of boo crap anyhow.

Jack

I think since we are all human, we will occasionally see someone that we lust over. Depending on how technical you want to get, one could consider that cheating. The Bible obviously states that it is cheating. I, though, think that since we are human it is extremely difficult, especially in this culture, to not occasionally lust about someone besides your partner. Now, if that lusting becomes obsessive and is taken to the next level, then that's when the real problem starts.

Jack · 08-08-2008, 02:25 AM

So true Southern Belle.

I find my self in a situation where I am not happy with certain physical aspects of the person I am with. Other than that I am pretty happy with her. It causes me to think I want someone else which leads to cheating mentally. I am not married to her, but to act on the feelings before saying "I just can't do this anymore", and break it off would do both her and I an injustice I feel.

I am not religious nor do I believe in heaven or hell, in the afterlife sense, but the Bible is true from the common sense point of view.

The only thing I have any control over is my mind, albiet minimal at best.

To be human has much diversity and conflict at times...I try to stay in the center where stillness resides. It is uncomfortable at times when I cannot find it, and the lust and storms of the mind and its mental noise take over.

Jack

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Originally Posted by southern belle

I think since we are all human, we will occasionally see someone that we lust over. Depending on how technical you want to get, one could consider that cheating. The Bible obviously states that it is cheating. I, though, think that since we are human it is extremely difficult, especially in this culture, to not occasionally lust about someone besides your partner. Now, if that lusting becomes obsessive and is taken to the next level, then that's when the real problem starts.

W.M.P. · 08-08-2008, 03:29 AM

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Originally Posted by southern belle

I don't condone cheating by either sex, but I think women generally cheat because they aren't getting the attention they are seeking from their husband and sex is just a by-product. Men, though, generally speaking, are probably cheating mostly for the sex.

Yup, you're right on the money on that one. Like many a relationship experts have stated over and over "Women need to feel a sense of 'closeness' in order to want sex; men need to have sex in order to feel a sense of 'closeness'." If women don't get the "quality time" and non-sexual attention they cherish, their desire for their man gets tucked deep beneath the pile of old LP's, encyclopedias, polyester bell-bottoms and all that random shit that's been fosilizing right next to the autographed Liberace cape you "found" at the hotel while on a drunken rage in Vegas back in '72.

In my experience (and that of many men I've talked to about this), when it comes to sex, women are more like "sexual camels", as they can go WAY longer than men without sex while feeling just fine. Women can come home on a Friday evening, all spent after enduring a stressful week (a week of course with no sex because of the stress from the daily grind) and they'll be more than content with cuddling all night while watching some TV. Us men, on the flipside, we CRAVE sex when we come home to our ladies after a tough day/week. In all honesty, us men don't need a reason, occasion, inspiration or flash of divine intervention in order want to make love to our women. Just the thought of making love to our women, to have them welcome us into their arms with open legs and that look on their face that reads "come here babe, let me take care of you"...that's ALL it takes for us to be ready. And that's the main thing that couples need to keep in mind in order to not hit that fork on the road. There's gotta be an understanding that being part of a couple requires for each party to be willing to compromise and be selfless for the greater good. I'm very understanding of women not being as quick to feel like having sex as us men are 24/7, but there comes a time (let's pick an arbitrary but nevertheless reasonable number of "after 5 days of no lovin'") where it would be nice if our women (even if they're "not feeling like it"; even if only for 5 minutes) decided to live up to the Nike motto and "Just Do It". Don't think about it, don't try to get worked up, just jump into in and DO IT. It'll feel nice to do it; even if you don't have it in you to cum at that time, YOU KNOW you'll LOVE to make us cum. We, on the other hand, will be more willing to cancel on our buddies on short notice because you want us to go to ( the Farmers Market, Mall, stroll hand in hand through the Strawberry fields out on the east end, get some new, pretty plants @ the local Greenhouse to re-do the garden, ect), and we'll again be inspired to bring you a nice card with a Sunflower, leave you a poem in your pocket for you to find while at work, ect, ect, ect, which in turn, will make YOU want to DO IT to us...and this way, my dear gents and dames from Betterman, we all win.

StrokerAce69 · 08-08-2008, 03:41 AM

No, Hell no, Fuck no!

McB52 · 08-08-2008, 04:02 AM

okay, guilty as charged!! Yes, I did it. Burn me to the cross, but you know, I'd do it again in a minute. Why, it filled a need that I was not get back at the ranch. We both went into it knowing it was just for SEX.

She had a need, I had a need, plain an simple! When it ended(2 yrs), we kissed each other and walked away. We haven't looked back since. Yes, I miss her!

Why, we have alot at steak, but when two individuals knowingly embark on this journey there is nothing wrong with it. I and she knew it would lead to nothing more. As a matter of fact, she came on to me.

I'm not proud of what I did, and I'm not making excuses for what I did or will do. I will say, I was happy and my family was never was/got hurt. Yes. back at the ranch there are issues and we(I'm) working on them.

Don't be quick to judge others, everyone has that GOOD quality. It's that, that needs to be judged. Good, bad or indifferent, we are human.

Ranting....tried red wine tonight....

Madame Ace 71 · 08-08-2008, 04:15 AM

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Originally Posted by baybabe

My question for the married women is... Why cheat? Why not get a divorce? If your thinking of being with another man, Leave the first one plain and simple right?

I agree 110% and I also believe that this goes for men as well. If you are to the point where you want to cheat, for goodness sake, just get out of the relationship. Something pushed you to that point. You don't just walk out of the house one day and say, "Hmmm, I think I am going to cheat on my partner today." Have somewhat of a heart. Spare the your partner and just move on.

10 · 08-08-2008, 05:51 AM

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Originally Posted by W.M.P.

Yup, you're right on the money on that one. Like many a relationship experts have stated over and over "Women need to feel a sense of 'closeness' in order to want sex; men need to have sex in order to feel a sense of 'closeness'." If women don't get the "quality time" and non-sexual attention they cherish, their desire for their man gets tucked deep beneath the pile of old LP's, encyclopedias, polyester bell-bottoms and all that random shit that's been fosilizing right next to the autographed Liberace cape you "found" at the hotel while on a drunken rage in Vegas back in '72.

In my experience (and that of many men I've talked to about this), when it comes to sex, women are more like "sexual camels", as they can go WAY longer than men without sex while feeling just fine. Women can come home on a Friday evening, all spent after enduring a stressful week (a week of course with no sex because of the stress from the daily grind) and they'll be more than content with cuddling all night while watching some TV. Us men, on the flipside, we CRAVE sex when we come home to our ladies after a tough day/week. In all honesty, us men don't need a reason, occasion, inspiration or flash of divine intervention in order want to make love to our women. Just the thought of making love to our women, to have them welcome us into their arms with open legs and that look on their face that reads "come here babe, let me take care of you"...that's ALL it takes for us to be ready. And that's the main thing that couples need to keep in mind in order to not hit that fork on the road. There's gotta be an understanding that being part of a couple requires for each party to be willing to compromise and be selfless for the greater good. I'm very understanding of women not being as quick to feel like having sex as us men are 24/7, but there comes a time (let's pick an arbitrary but nevertheless reasonable number of "after 5 days of no lovin'") where it would be nice if our women (even if they're "not feeling like it"; even if only for 5 minutes) decided to live up to the Nike motto and "Just Do It". Don't think about it, don't try to get worked up, just jump into in and DO IT. It'll feel nice to do it; even if you don't have it in you to cum at that time, YOU KNOW you'll LOVE to make us cum. We, on the other hand, will be more willing to cancel on our buddies on short notice because you want us to go to ( the Farmers Market, Mall, stroll hand in hand through the Strawberry fields out on the east end, get some new, pretty plants @ the local Greenhouse to re-do the garden, ect), and we'll again be inspired to bring you a nice card with a Sunflower, leave you a poem in your pocket for you to find while at work, ect, ect, ect, which in turn, will make YOU want to DO IT to us...and this way, my dear gents and dames from Betterman, we all win.

You know W.M.P., you make some pretty good arguments here but I'm not 100% in your court.

Now, the ONLY thing I can base my opinion on is my failed 7 year marriage. You mentioned something about feeling underappreciated, undervalued, not care for and I think a few other things. That's basically how I felt throughout most of my 7 years with her.

I agree, women are sexual camels and my ex was a PERFECT example. She couldn't have cared less if we had sex once a month. Her libido was simply in the toilet. I attribute this to her poor dietary habits and other such things but my point is, she could go ALOT longer without it than I could. I could've and would've done it 7 days a week if given the chance. And, believe it or not, there were times where she would, out of guilt, spread them legs for me and let me "gidi girl" and perform her, as she called it, her "wifely duty". Of course it was purely mechanical sex. There was no love involved, it was a simple, casual, let my husband have his way with me kind of fuck and then it was over. Sure, I enjoyed it, after all, it was SEX!

But all the other stuff you talk about W.M.P. Dropping plans with your buddy's to go with her to a movie, or a flower shop or some other place? Nah, aint happenin' with me. I will make plans to spend time with her doing things BUT, if I had plans to hang out with my buddy's, I'm hanging out with my buddy's.

So, I do agree in part with your theory but some of it is a tad flawed IMO.

W.M.P. · 08-08-2008, 06:44 AM

Well, 10, I guess I didn't explain myself as clear as I should've on that one. I'm not talking about the kind of "canceling on your buddies" that goes on with the guys like my cousing who are WHIPPED beyond repair...you know, the kind who plan every single move around what SHE wants to do. I'm talking more about those kind of moments where you just go with the flow and compromise a bit for the greater good. And I must emphasize the term "SOMETIMES" as opposed to all the time, most of the time, ect. People gotta have their own individual lives while in a relationship. All I'm trying to convey is that, there's gotta be a willingness to GIVE for the sake of the relationship, and giving a bit of yourself can take more shapes than just one. Catch my flow, brah?