My girl is too loose

Manon · 09-11-2006, 02:27 PM

I have only been with one girl and I'm 20 years old- but for some reason I can't even stay hard inside her! Since I have only been with one girl I don't know if I'm right about the assumption of her being too loose. There's still the possibilty it's my fault and not hers; but I swear I can barely feel anything when we're going at it. Usually on our first time I can get off, but I come too early because of the concentration and effort put into staying turned on.

In addition, I would like to add that a couple of other reasons I think she is just too loose; she is slighlty overwieght, can't do a single kegel, uses a dildo way too big, and has been sexually active before me in a very "big" way. She is 19.

It is really hard on our relationship and me; mostly because I take all the blame and heat for it. I just want ya'lls input into my situation but the biggest thing to me is when I get really turned on and when I put it in her my erection goes away and I am 6 by 4 3/4. Thanks for any insight for this noobie in both categories.

Überschwanz · 09-11-2006, 04:21 PM

This is a complex situation which I don't want to oversimplify if I can avoid it, but I still have to ask. Is there anything nonsexual between the two of you that is troubling or distracting you? You sound pretty tense Manon. Those sorts of things always affect sex.

Manon · 09-11-2006, 04:42 PM

Yeah, it could definately be that. This is actually the only source of tension within the relationship but there are all kind of outside factors. We don't see each other near as much because I went off to school, which is yet another source of tension. I now work, go to school, and live in a town about 40 minutes away and whenever we do meet up it's almost always about the sex now. Which is very stressful; we always tell our selves that we need to stop for a little while becuase the relationship is deteriorating because of it, so far we haven't been able to. We've been going out for about 4 months and have only been having sex for the last month and a half.

Added all up, I am pretty tense right now; new town, new school, new house, new job, new room mate, and now I can't even please my girl anymore. I'm sure it could be my mind working against me, but darn, it just goes away when I'm inside her, that's the most stressful thing of all right now in my life.

Side-note/ At first it seems like it was pretty good, but of course I was new so I didn't know what to think. In the beginning she came almost everytime for the first couple of weeks and then I started having trouble...

To some degree I almost feel like it would be impossible for a girl to be so loose that a guy, no matter his size, would lose his erection inside her? Am I right?

88man · 09-11-2006, 05:05 PM

Manon, I would suggest getting in social situations with other people to stop the sex. Just take her to a friends house or to some place that the both of you can have FUN!! Just relax, and try to get to know each other. Remember to have some fun though!

happy stud · 09-11-2006, 11:57 PM

Hey man since you say she is slightly overweight you might subconsiously not be attracted to her. I know I dont get a hard on even when drinking alot when I see fat women. My suggestion is try to pick up another women and if you get lucky and fuck her with no problems then you know that your just not physically attracted to the overweight woman.

88man · 09-12-2006, 12:07 AM

Thats a good point Stud. Subconciously, you may have somthing that triggers a bad thought or simply turns you off. I dont think that this is the problem though. I think its the level of stress that you are dealing with, and the fact that you havent grown socially with her.

10 · 09-12-2006, 01:16 AM

Personally, it sounds like you've just got too damn much doing on right now. Plus, I think this whole "meeting for sex" thing is causing you to put increased pressure on yourself to perform when she comes around. In effect, you're training your brain to associate her with sex and with all of the other distractions right now in your life, this might be overloading your system.

Remember, it takes concentration and focus to perform sexually. Guys can't just turn on the erection like it's a damn water faucet (except you studly.....hell, you'll fuck anything!).

Point here is just relax, get accustomed to your new surroundings and new life style for a while and better yet, just take a break from the whole sex thing and just go out an enjoy each other's company.

slimthug · 09-12-2006, 01:42 AM

Dang maybe she is just loose as hell

happy stud · 09-12-2006, 02:27 AM

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Originally Posted by slimthug

Dang maybe she is just loose as hell

She could be but hell if shes just 19 and has never had a baby I find it hard to believe that her pussy is that stretched already unless shes been fucking some horses or something. I still think hes just aint attracted to an overweight woman. Nothing to be ashamed of. Hell I dont like em either. Ive had fat women rub my dick in a bar and I dont get hard at all not even a flicker of a hard on. I think he just doesnt care for large women. He needs to try my experiment and go fuck a slender women and then report back.

sikdogg · 09-12-2006, 02:41 AM

Stud, he did mention that she likes to use very large dildos... that and the inability to do kegels could possibly make a woman loose.

88man · 09-12-2006, 02:49 AM

Personally, I hate dildo's! I think they are a disgrace to men. Fake dicks have no place in this world................except for the Fat and ugly! If your a woman and alone call your man or use the finger, but leave the DICKs to the men.......not that were dicks, but we can use them and were better than a plastic peice of a man.

10 · 09-12-2006, 03:10 AM

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Originally Posted by 88man

Personally, I hate dildo's! I think they are a disgrace to men. Fake dicks have no place in this world................except for the Fat and ugly! If your a woman and alone call your man or use the finger, but leave the DICKs to the men.......not that were dicks, but we can use them and were better than a plastic peice of a man.

I don't think this at all. In fact, I view them to the contrary. I think they can excitement to the relationship as can any sex toy. Plus, us men use our hands to masturbate, why can't women pleasure themselves with a dildo???

Marty5379 · 09-12-2006, 03:22 AM

Sounds like you are dating one of mine or JP's old girlfriends. Don't feel bad, everyone who follows us complains about it being "too loose." Best bet is for you to find a girl that JP and I have not plowed.

slimthug · 09-12-2006, 06:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Marty5379

Sounds like you are dating one of mine or JP's old girlfriends. Don't feel bad, everyone who follows us complains about it being "too loose." Best bet is for you to find a girl that JP and I have not plowed.

That shouldn't be too hard considering they've tapped all the fat and ugly girls...

Go for the in shape pretty ones and there will be no chance that those two hit it;)

88man · 09-12-2006, 12:43 PM

10, I just could never see myself using a dildo on my woman. I like knowing that I gave her that pleasure, not the toy. I think (for older couples) that it would be good thing, like you said. But, for me and being young, I just cant see another PENis with my future woman.

10 · 09-12-2006, 02:03 PM

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Originally Posted by 88man

10, I just could never see myself using a dildo on my woman. I like knowing that I gave her that pleasure, not the toy. I think (for older couples) that it would be good thing, like you said. But, for me and being young, I just cant see another PENis with my future woman.

See, to me, seeing a woman pleasuring herself can be very erotic and stimulating. Besides 88, never say never. You might say this and think this way now, in 10 years, you'll be a totally different person than who you are now. 10 years ago, I wouldn't have been caught dead on a forum like this and doing penis exercises but here I am........

88man · 09-12-2006, 05:06 PM

I agree with you, that my thinking might change, but I just cant stand the thought of seeing my girl using a dildo on herself! I asked her (girlfriend) if she would ever consider using one, or thought about it. she told me How she thought they were gross, and how she would rather have me than a FAKE COCK. She just explained how it just didnt appeal to her.
10, I can see that it might turn you on watching a woman pleasuring herself.....But I would want to jump in on the action!!

happy stud · 09-12-2006, 09:44 PM

Hey Manon its like this man. If you go to a shoe store and put on a pair of shoes that are way too big you dont think there is anything wrong with your feet do you? No hell no you just go and put on a smaller pair. This damn girl has obviously been fucked a whole lot and likes these real big dildos and it has just stretched that damn pussy out. Nothing to feel ashamed about. Hell a 747 is real small when it lands in the Grand Canyon. take my advice and get some new pussy.

10 · 09-12-2006, 11:25 PM

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Originally Posted by happy stud

Hey Manon its like this man. If you go to a shoe store and put on a pair of shoes that are way too big you dont think there is anything wrong with your feet do you? No hell no you just go and put on a smaller pair. This damn girl has obviously been fucked a whole lot and likes these real big dildos and it has just stretched that damn pussy out. Nothing to feel ashamed about. Hell a 747 is real small when it lands in the Grand Canyon. take my advice and get some new pussy.

I'm likin' the 747 analogy studly. Nice touch........

Marty5379 · 09-13-2006, 12:39 AM

Speaking of toys ...

My wife and I have a toy box larger than life. We have just about one of every gadget ever made for a pussy. We have and do use them all. But regardless of which one(s) we use, in the end she wants flesh and blood. All you young cocks listen. In the end they want the real thing. A toy is just that - a toy, not a boy. They can get off and on with the toy, but it ain't the real thing. Nothing, absolutely nothing, takes the place of flesh and blood.

With that said, if you do not entertain your woman with toys every now and then, you are missing out on the best sex you've ever had. Toys can get her to a point of no return, and then you enter. Some of wildest sex we've had was after playing with toys.

Let me say it again: Nothing takes the place of flesh and blood in her pussy. Nothing. Toys can touch things you can't touch. They can move in a way you can't move. They can come in sizes larger than you. But in the end it ain't you. The moan from a cock is much different from the moan of a piece of cold plastic or metal.

So have no fear of toys. Enjoy them and enjoy watching her become insane while using them or while you use one on her. Then throw the meat pole in the hole. In the end that is what she enjoys the most.

sikdogg · 09-13-2006, 12:42 AM

^^^ Bravo.... great post. ^^^

88man · 09-13-2006, 10:22 PM

Marty, you make this "toy" thing sound alot better to me than I thought of it. I guess I have a fear of my woman using the toy more than me, or showing more pleasure with the toy as to me.

sikdogg · 09-13-2006, 10:42 PM

88, as much as she'll enjoy using toys... she'll always enjoy your cock (and fingers and tongue) more. Toys may feel good but they never feel like the real thing. Surprise her one day by buying a small vibrator without telling her. Take it out once you start foreplay and use it on different parts of her body... she'll be pleasantly surprised.

88man · 09-14-2006, 05:33 AM

Well see she's a virgen Sik, and I would really want that first time to be with me. Im kinda getting used to the thought of toys in the future.

We actually went to a Sex shop, and bought some massage oil, that smelled like strawberries. She loved it when I rubbed her tits and ass with the stuff, SHE Was drippin wet when I got done massaging her. I saw this swirly thing that went over the penis glans, and down the shaft in swirls and had a cap for the glans. Now if I ever wanted to try something new......THAT would be it. It was pretty neat looking

10 · 09-14-2006, 02:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Marty5379

Speaking of toys ...

My wife and I have a toy box larger than life. We have just about one of every gadget ever made for a pussy. We have and do use them all. But regardless of which one(s) we use, in the end she wants flesh and blood. All you young cocks listen. In the end they want the real thing. A toy is just that - a toy, not a boy. They can get off and on with the toy, but it ain't the real thing. Nothing, absolutely nothing, takes the place of flesh and blood.

With that said, if you do not entertain your woman with toys every now and then, you are missing out on the best sex you've ever had. Toys can get her to a point of no return, and then you enter. Some of wildest sex we've had was after playing with toys.

Let me say it again: Nothing takes the place of flesh and blood in her pussy. Nothing. Toys can touch things you can't touch. They can move in a way you can't move. They can come in sizes larger than you. But in the end it ain't you. The moan from a cock is much different from the moan of a piece of cold plastic or metal.

So have no fear of toys. Enjoy them and enjoy watching her become insane while using them or while you use one on her. Then throw the meat pole in the hole. In the end that is what she enjoys the most.

Excellent post Marty!! Nice job!!

want8 · 09-14-2006, 02:32 PM

Great post dude! And I totally agree. We also have lots of toys, and the one I like most is a vibrating dildo that she has in one of those pillows so she can ride it like she rides me. As she rides it she sometimes gives me a bj. When she cums she just shakes all over! But, she does still prefer me over any toy.

Manon · 09-14-2006, 02:56 PM

Even though it got a little off topic I appreciate the help. Right now I guess I am just a little stressed, and I am really starting to get into the noobie routine but I am staying away from measuring so no results. I guess the only other concern is if she is kinda loose, will adding a little girth make ME feel anything different? So basically is sex better for me with a bigger member?