"Casual Sex" vs. ""In Love Sex" - Page 4

Betterman · 12-18-2007, 11:11 AM

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Originally Posted by southern belle

Maybe my Teaching Certificate?

In Louisana it may be called a Learnin' Certificate.

happy stud · 12-18-2007, 12:03 PM

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Originally Posted by southern belle

Maybe my Teaching Certificate?

I know your a blonde but you aint that damn blonde.

SonicCelt · 12-19-2007, 01:59 AM

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Originally Posted by southern belle

Maybe my Teaching Certificate?

I think you meant diploma, certificates are those mail order courses that you get from those matchbook covers.

JonPop · 12-19-2007, 03:13 AM

Nope, she ment certificate. Teachers certificate, Nurse's certificate etc.

happy stud · 12-19-2007, 12:10 PM

Hey Sonic are you telling us that ya'lls teachers go through mail order courses?

SonicCelt · 12-19-2007, 09:41 PM

Nope, they all go through universities and earn degrees with diplomas. Teaching assistance however need only a certificate program from a trade or tech institute. We're pretty fussy about our educators up here.

sikdogg · 12-19-2007, 10:00 PM

Here in Cali, to be a teacher one needs to complete ALL of the following:

1) Bachelor's Degree from a college or university
2) Complete Teacher's Credential program Prerequisites
3) Pass the state CBEST or CSET exams
4) Complete a state-approved Teaching Credential Program
5) Pass RICA after the Teacher's Credential Program

10 · 12-20-2007, 04:19 AM

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Originally Posted by sikdogg

Here in Cali, to be a teacher one needs to complete ALL of the following:

1) Bachelor's Degree from a college or university
2) Complete Teacher's Credential program Prerequisites
3) Pass the state CBEST or CSET exams
4) Complete a state-approved Teaching Credential Program
5) Pass RICA after the Teacher's Credential Program

Boy, that's some list. Funny too. My niece wants to be a teacher and she got kicked out of Fullerton JC. Hope it happens for her

sikdogg · 12-20-2007, 05:29 PM

What's real funny is that here in Cali we have one of the worst public school systems in the country... I believe that LAUSD ranked in the bottom 10% nationwide.

10 · 12-21-2007, 01:53 AM

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Originally Posted by sikdogg

What's real funny is that here in Cali we have one of the worst public school systems in the country... I believe that LAUSD ranked in the bottom 10% nationwide.

Ah man, don't say that. Both my kids are in public school..........but it's AUSD not LA.

southern belle · 12-21-2007, 03:39 AM

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What's real funny is that here in Cali we have one of the worst public school systems in the country... I believe that LAUSD ranked in the bottom 10% nationwide.

More than likely the problem in California is like everywhere else. It is not so much the system or the teacher's fault, although sometimes it certainly is, but the lack of parental involvement. Some parents just do not understand that we cannot do everything. You would be so surprised how many parents spend very little time making sure their children are doing their homework, studying for tests, etc. And when we send home notes or progress reports, they get mad at us claiming we are not doing our job.

There are so many statistics that show a very high correlation between parental involvement and how well their children do in school. The more P.I. the better the student does and vice versa. Of course there are exceptions to every rule. But the vast majority of students who have strong P.I. do very well.

So what's the answer? You cannot legislate morality. You cannot lawfully make parents be involved in their children's education if they do not want to.

10 · 12-21-2007, 05:02 AM

You're absolutely right Belle, PI is crucial to a child's development in school.

Betterman · 12-21-2007, 11:50 PM

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So what's the answer? You cannot legislate morality. You cannot lawfully make parents be involved in their children's education if they do not want to.

In my opinion, the individual student needs to have the drive to want to learn. You could have all the positive reinforcement necessary. If the child doesn't want to learn. He/She won't, until Life teaches them.

That is guaranteed. Life Always Makes You Learn.

southern belle · 12-22-2007, 01:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Betterman

In my opinion, the individual student needs to have the drive to want to learn. You could have all the positive reinforcement necessary. If the child doesn't want to learn. He/She won't, until Life teaches them.

That is guaranteed. Life Always Makes You Learn.

Unfortunately, it is not that simple. If parents are not stressing the importance of a good education to their children, then it is not very reasonable to expect children to be interested in education either. Certainly there are children who do have parents who stress the value of a good education that do not do well in school. But most children who do poorly in school have uncaring parents regarding education.

Betterman · 12-22-2007, 04:27 PM

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Originally Posted by southern belle

Unfortunately, it is not that simple. If parents are not stressing the importance of a good education to their children, then it is not very reasonable to expect children to be interested in education either. Certainly there are children who do have parents who stress the value of a good education that do not do well in school. But most children who do poorly in school have uncaring parents regarding education.

Very true. It also seems to matter which social groups the child is involved in. If the social group is negative on education. The child will want to be as their peers and vice versa. The parents role is vital, but can only be useful to a certain extent. The child also needs to be willing. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink. The child should also be held accountable for their actions.

I'm happy to see how my own children have taken the initiative to learn. Since they were 5. I would instruct them how important Math and Science will be in the future. Now they are in high school. One child wants to be an aeronautical engineer. My middle wants to go into software design. My youngest wants to be either a vet or a designer.

bozoballz · 12-22-2007, 05:22 PM

Not to change the subject but I been thinking about the initial topic. Even sex with someone you love can become casual and sex with someone you may not know very well can be loving. It comes down to the moment when two people engage in sex. If their thoughts are on the other, without pretense, full concentration on the other... making love to that person alone, no thought of "How am I doing?" etc then the sex can be very loving. It becomes more casual the more our thought strays to ourselves, or worse, if were using the person as a fantasy fuck. Also hard to have loving sex while drunk, thats usually just a sloppy fuck fest. The more a person thinks "me, me, me" or "I want this or that." or "What am I getting out of this." the more casual the sex. Not that thats BAD, its just not loving....

What ch'all think?

JonPop · 12-22-2007, 05:32 PM

It's amazing to me that we start a thread with a specific topic and then wander away from it. Although at some forums, posters that go off topic will get yelled at. This doesn't bother me a bit as the thread will usually find it's way back to the original topic. I enjoy this kind of banter between the members and sometimes the best advice, most interesting bits of information, or dialogue happens when we pirate a thread. The only problem with this is; That it makes it very difficult to refer back to a specific subject that is of interest, when the title of the thread has nothing to do with what you are looking for. Please don't think I am critcizing, as I do this myself, just voicing my thoughts.

southern belle · 12-22-2007, 09:54 PM

Okay, how about this?

Y'all are at a party that one of your friends invited you to. At the party you meet several people, including two really hot women. You get both of their phone numbers.

A few days later you set up a date with one of them on Friday night and a date with the other one on Saturday night.

You have a really good time with the first woman and she realy seems to like you a lot. Since she feels very comfortable with you, she allows you to go to bed with her. The next night you go out with the other woman and have an even better time with her compared to the first woman. However, she will only allow you to kiss her since this is your first date.

The next week you go out with the first woman again and have a good time again. She also allows you to go back to bed with her. The next night you go out with the second woman and you have an even better time than you did last week. This time she lets you kiss her and lightly fondle her breasts, but that's it.

The next week you go out with the first woman again and have a good time again and end up in bed again also. The next night you go out with the second woman again and you have a great time again. When you get back to her place, this time she lets you slide your hand down her panties for a little while before she sends you home.

The next week you go out with the first woman and have a good time again and also end up in bed again. The next night you go out with the second woman and have just an incredible time with her. She really seems to be very special. When you take her back to her place, she invites you to spend the night with her.

Now, is the sex going to be good, better or the same with her compared to the first woman?

JonPop · 12-22-2007, 10:24 PM

I believe that anticipation always makes the experiance better whether it's sex or waiting to open your presents. And Bell, darlin, please tell 10 where he can find these two women.

slickwillie · 12-23-2007, 12:50 PM

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Originally Posted by southern belle

The next week you go out with the first woman and have a good time again and also end up in bed again. The next night you go out with the second woman and have just an incredible time with her. She really seems to be very special. When you take her back to her place, she invites you to spend the night with her.

Now, is the sex going to be good, better or the same with her compared to the first woman?

If the sex is great, then waiting would/could probably make it more enjoyable but what if it's not good at all. Not to say that's a "show stopper" because you had a great time fooling around and going out.
Keep seeing the two ladies is my opinion. One for dinner and drinks and the other for great sex! Happy Stud has my back on this one.

Enjoying this thread too by the way. Good stuff...

bozoballz · 12-23-2007, 03:37 PM

Interesting scenario SB, making me think!

::head explodes::

I guess I would stay with whoever I felt was more loving and kind... regardless of how they went about "getting there", but that may take a while to discern. ;)

10 · 12-24-2007, 02:52 PM

I think the sex with the second woman would be incredible.........however, she could also be a dud in the sack too. It's almost the best of both worlds..........you've got the one that wants to be a whore with you in the bedroom and the other is the one you treat like a lady and respect............good scenario and very tough call.

Überschwanz · 12-26-2007, 12:37 AM

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Originally Posted by JonPop

It's amazing to me that we start a thread with a specific topic and then wander away from it. Although at some forums, posters that go off topic will get yelled at. This doesn't bother me a bit as the thread will usually find it's way back to the original topic. I enjoy this kind of banter between the members and sometimes the best advice, most interesting bits of information, or dialogue happens when we pirate a thread. The only problem with this is; That it makes it very difficult to refer back to a specific subject that is of interest, when the title of the thread has nothing to do with what you are looking for. Please don't think I am critcizing, as I do this myself, just voicing my thoughts.

I see what you're saying JP and I do agree with it. We don't want to be thread Nazis though so what can we do?

10 · 12-26-2007, 02:35 AM

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I see what you're saying JP and I do agree with it. We don't want to be thread Nazis though so what can we do?

Nothing because this will never change.

happy stud · 12-26-2007, 12:52 PM

And ya'll are the pot that calls the tea kettle black. you bitch about people hijacking threads then ya'll turn around and keep making posts that dont have a damn thing to do with the topic either. You want to unhijack a thread then start posting to the damn thread like this.

In Susans example the first woman would probably be damn good the first couple of times or so. Probably the first time with the second woman would be damn good. But you never know. She might be real nervous and just lays there like a damn dead fish so your disappointed because after all this time waiting your expecting her to be really good. It just depends as to how much both people are into the other one. If both are really hot for the other one then the sex is gonna be damn good no matter what.

want8 · 12-26-2007, 02:25 PM

You tell them Studly! As for the 2 women, I am with Slick, I would continue to date both of them and make a decision later down the road. After all, what woman or man does not want to have sex. But after just 3 dates I think that is a little to soon to say, well, she was better in bed and I like her more than the other. So again, I would date both for a while and see which one was more caring and respectful and I think once you get to no the other person better the sex will become better as well.

bozoballz · 12-26-2007, 05:00 PM

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If both are really hot for the other one then the sex is gonna be damn good no matter what.

Ain't that the truth. There once was this really hot beluga whale at the aquarium...

I agree with want8... so umm... put a check next to my name or something.

sikdogg · 12-26-2007, 05:45 PM

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Originally Posted by happy stud

... In Susans example the first woman would probably be damn good the first couple of times or so. Probably the first time with the second woman would be damn good. But you never know. She might be real nervous and just lays there like a damn dead fish so your disappointed because after all this time waiting your expecting her to be really good. It just depends as to how much both people are into the other one. If both are really hot for the other one then the sex is gonna be damn good no matter what.

Totally agree with this... what makes sex good the the level of participation the woman is willing to put forth. The only caveat is if she doesn't have alot of experience... in that case even if she's totally into you sex won't be great because she just wouldn't know how to please you. Effort makes up for some lack of skill but that only takes her so far... experience is tough to fake.

I would also try to date both.... i say try to date both because if they were good friends, then they would have found out about you dating both of them pretty quick and you would end up losing both. It would take alot of strategy to date both friends at the saame time for more than a few dates.

southern belle · 12-27-2007, 03:07 AM

So after a few weeks dating both of them, then who do you decide to be with? The one who is great in bed but not a lot of fun out of bed or the one who is a lot of fun out of bed but just so-so in bed?

sikdogg · 12-27-2007, 03:09 AM

i choose the latter...

10 · 12-27-2007, 02:40 PM

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i choose the latter...

Yeah, I'd have to agree here. The bedroom skills can only be improved up and with more experience, comes better sex (typically). But since you spend most of your time not in bed but living life, you've gotta be with someone who's fun spirited and likes to try new things, etc...

Überschwanz · 12-27-2007, 05:20 PM

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Yeah, I'd have to agree here. The bedroom skills can only be improved up and with more experience, comes better sex (typically). But since you spend most of your time not in bed but living life, you've gotta be with someone who's fun spirited and likes to try new things, etc...

I agree too.

southern belle · 12-28-2007, 12:54 AM

I am curious how y'all think about when does casual sex evolve into in love sex. What are some of the signs or some of the things done/said that take it to the next level for y'all?

sikdogg · 12-28-2007, 01:04 AM

When you wake up with her sleeping next to you for the third time this week... and you're ok with it.

Marty5379 · 12-28-2007, 03:42 AM

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Originally Posted by southern belle

I am curious how y'all think about when does casual sex evolve into in love sex. What are some of the signs or some of the things done/said that take it to the next level for y'all?

When she says,"Damn! That's the biggest cock I've ever seen!" I'm in love from this point forward.