Speed Dating - Page 6

SonicCelt · 04-23-2008, 08:40 PM

I wish I had your problem then they would leave me the f**k alone. You need to come up here to Canada, got young ones, old ones, you name it.

italiananglo69 · 04-23-2008, 09:02 PM

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I wish I had your problem then they would leave me the f**k alone. You need to come up here to Canada, got young ones, old ones, you name it.

Stop showing them your 9", Super Sonic Stud.

that should help.

i think Happy Stud is completely right about the competition thing. if they know there is someone else youre talking to, all of a sudden they think somehow you must be a good catch. Its just like stocks, when theres a bunch of interest, all of a sudden it appears like its a good thing even if the fundamentals havent changed. If you "appear" Confident, successful, fun and sexy; women are drawn to that like flies.

10 · 04-23-2008, 10:08 PM

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Stop showing them your 9", Super Sonic Stud.

that should help.

i think Happy Stud is completely right about the competition thing. if they know there is someone else youre talking to, all of a sudden they think somehow you must be a good catch. Its just like stocks, when theres a bunch of interest, all of a sudden it appears like its a good thing even if the fundamentals havent changed. If you "appear" Confident, successful, fun and sexy; women are drawn to that like flies.

Trust me, I am confident, successful, fun and sexy and yet I still repell them. And Sonic, you wanna trade places brother, you got it. Or perhaps I'll just move up to freakin' Alberta. I suppose Alberta could always have a second "Alberta Beef" thing going on.....

Part of the problem, as it was pointed out to me, is the intense and shallow mindset of SoCal women and in particular, Orange County. They want men who drive the Benz, make the $$$ and are physically fit. I've got the physically fit part down pat. I hate Mercedes so that's out of the question and I'm working on the $$ part.

Marty5379 · 04-24-2008, 01:55 AM

10, some of the problems you are running into are the result of where you are seeking women. Rewind back to that old thread Susan had regarding meeting women - specifically, where to meet women. She gave excellent advice on where to meet the type woman you are seeking.

I've known a few people who have played around on the dating sites and they all sing the same song I hear you singing. It seems a lot of those women are single and looking for a reason ... maybe the same reasons you find them distasteful. I would even venture to say that the "good" women, the ones who do not play the games, are not on the dating sites because to them those sites are a game of sorts.

Point is, change your venue. If you keep doing the same thing, you keep getting the same results. And work is a no, no. Don't get your hole where you get your dough $.

On another note, Maurice is 110% correct about the type women you are running up against. I'm speaking of the female players. Best way to get in bed with them is to be a bigger and better player. They cum off just knowing you are interested and therefore don't need your dick. Show a little independence and a little "I can go with or without you" and they will trail you like a bloodhound because they have yet to cum. Now they ain't worth marrying, but you'll stand a good chance of blowing a load.

What I found about the bitch type was that if I out bitched them, they cowed down and wanted my ass. Strange, but true. They play hard ball, I play harder ball and it humbles their ass. Most are used to getting their way in every way. But when they meet someone who is more of a player than they, you win and get laid.

Just my two cents.

happy stud · 04-24-2008, 12:08 PM

And another damn thing whether we like it or not women are gonna play games. Some more than others. So either get used to it or get used to your hand.

10 · 04-24-2008, 05:15 PM

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And another damn thing whether we like it or not women are gonna play games. Some more than others. So either get used to it or get used to your hand.

YOU are absolutely right Maurice. I just have to learn to fight fire with fire. They wanna play games? Game on..........

Marty, I've had a long standing personal policy about not dating or fucking any woman I work with. Never had and never will. It's just not wise or safe. And with sexual harassment policies in the work place being as hard core as they've now become............no thanks, don't need the hassle.

And, believe it or not, I do try and outplay the women. They know I want to get laid and they play off that. I give off the perception that if they're not willing, someone else is. Hasn't really worked yet but I'm going to get laid this year if it kills me!

And yes, the games played through internet dating are crap and perhaps I do need a change of venue. In fact, I finally heard from Noelle last night...........after 3 days and two phone messages she sends me this impersonal "Dear Bret" email stating that while I'm a really fun, likable guy, she's afraid that she's still in love with her ex-boyfriend............who mind you is married to someone else but who also happens to be her son's father!!

She thanked me for the time getting to know me and wished me the best. So, I fired off my own thoughts to her. I wasn't rude, vulgar or nasty but I told her exactly what kind of person I felt she is. And I did tell her it was strictly her loss and not mine.

There's tons more out there!!

SonicCelt · 04-24-2008, 06:49 PM

I got to give you respects 10, you're living a friggin' soap opera and I would be puking all over the place, it would make me that sick. For all this crap you're going through and the time wasted and I'm not just talking physical time but the mental time you would have to spend thinking about all this junk would drive me around the bend. You could be doing so much more to enjoy life! Don't you guys play sports or hang out, work on cars or do something? I know you don't do church but there is so much more, especially for you Califorianese types. Oh well, I hope something comes through for you so you can assume a reasonable existance. Best luck bro.

10 · 04-24-2008, 08:14 PM

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I got to give you respects 10, you're living a friggin' soap opera and I would be puking all over the place, it would make me that sick. For all this crap you're going through and the time wasted and I'm not just talking physical time but the mental time you would have to spend thinking about all this junk would drive me around the bend. You could be doing so much more to enjoy life! Don't you guys play sports or hang out, work on cars or do something? I know you don't do church but there is so much more, especially for you Califorianese types. Oh well, I hope something comes through for you so you can assume a reasonable existance. Best luck bro.

Unfortunately for me Sonic, I happen to live in one of the most shallow, competitive dating markets out there. Unless I'm willing to play these stupid little, immature games, I won't get any.............it's that simple. Ask any of the other SoCal boys on this forum and I'm sure they'd agree. It's VERY competitive out here. If you don't drive a Benz and make $150K per year, most women won't even look at you. Very sad but very true.

But, I do have a very good life and I appreciate your concern buddy. I am actually going to enroll at the local community college for this fall's term and take an auto shop class so I can learn what makes my '91 Merc tick. I am a very happy, confident, self respecting man and enjoy the hell out of my friends, family and kids. This is the only part of my life that truly sucks and quite frankly, it's easy to turn it off. If I don't want to deal with this crap, I just don't and stop for a while. Then, when I want to resume and give it a go, I go for it.

Someway, somehow, I have to get myself out there. I'd hate to be the funny old man who lives at the end of the block with 20 cats that all the little kids laugh at............

southern tz · 04-25-2008, 01:28 AM

Whoa! Whoa! Slow down! Before y'all start a contest to see who can out-bash women, let's segment women. I believe there have been numerous posts in other threads that have discussed women's behavior, depending WHERE you meet them!

Briefly restated, the more you know about the woman, the better your chances of "getting what you want" in a relationship. If sex is your major objective, then obviously bars and night clubs should be your priority.

Those of you looking for a relationship of more than just sex, then start going to different places than bars. There are many, many respectable women in churches, schools, various clubs, athletic-related activities, etc.

Unfortunately, our society has conditioned people that they should be able to attain or obtain whatever they want instantly. Sorry, but relationships just don't work that way.

What some of you might assume is "game-playing" on our part may actually be a number of things. If we don't know you, we may have various "barriers" that we use until we feel comfortable about you. Sorry, but until we get to know you, we don't know if you are a rapist, woman beater, etc. Call us paranoid all you want, but just look at the news and you will see what I mean. Sure, there may be some flirting that we do that y'all interpret as playing games.

The bottom line is make us feel comfortable and you will see our true colors - good or bad. Just don't expect us to become comfortable with you in a date or two.

Marty5379 · 04-25-2008, 02:07 AM

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.... I believe there have been numerous posts in other threads that have discussed women's behavior, depending WHERE you meet them!....

I think that sums it up.

10 · 04-25-2008, 08:05 AM

Hey, look, I wasn't trying to start anything about women bashing. I've reformed my thoughts on women and believe me, I do realize that not all women are jerks. Unfortunately, I happen to have really..........REALLY bad luck with women. I just do. I also have equally bad luck (typically speaking) with cars. I always buy the one that needs $5K in repairs right off the bat. Same with women. I always pick the ones with the drama in their lives, ones that still have emotional attachment to an ex boyfriend or ones that are just plain whacked.

And, I've also come to the harsh reality that perhaps online dating just isn't my thing. Others have great success with it. Apparently not so much so for me. For instance, my boss at work is 10 years younger than I am, is skrawnier than all get out and has acne and he gets the hottest women winking at him every damn night..............and I'm talking multiple winks and some just flat out email him. I'm lucky I get 1 wink or email in a 6 month period. My luck just sucks.

So, I think the best thing for me to do is decide what it is I really and truly want...........whether that be an actual relationship or simple one night stand. And perhaps I should also seriously think about meeting women at other places aside from the internet. Either that or join the priest hood and take a permanent vow of celebacy..................

italiananglo69 · 04-25-2008, 08:21 AM

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Hey, look, I wasn't trying to start anything about women bashing. I've reformed my thoughts on women and believe me, I do realize that not all women are jerks. Unfortunately, I happen to have really..........REALLY bad luck with women. I just do. I also have equally bad luck (typically speaking) with cars. I always buy the one that needs $5K in repairs right off the bat. Same with women. I always pick the ones with the drama in their lives, ones that still have emotional attachment to an ex boyfriend or ones that are just plain whacked.

And, I've also come to the harsh reality that perhaps online dating just isn't my thing. Others have great success with it. Apparently not so much so for me. For instance, my boss at work is 10 years younger than I am, is skrawnier than all get out and has acne and he gets the hottest women winking at him every damn night..............and I'm talking multiple winks and some just flat out email him. I'm lucky I get 1 wink or email in a 6 month period. My luck just sucks.

So, I think the best thing for me to do is decide what it is I really and truly want...........whether that be an actual relationship or simple one night stand. And perhaps I should also seriously think about meeting women at other places aside from the internet. Either that or join the priest hood and take a permanent vow of celibacy..................

I hear the catholic church is hiring, just keep away from the Altar boys.

happy stud · 04-25-2008, 12:05 PM

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Hey, look, I wasn't trying to start anything about women bashing. I've reformed my thoughts on women and believe me, I do realize that not all women are jerks. Unfortunately, I happen to have really..........REALLY bad luck with women. I just do. I also have equally bad luck (typically speaking) with cars. I always buy the one that needs $5K in repairs right off the bat. Same with women. I always pick the ones with the drama in their lives, ones that still have emotional attachment to an ex boyfriend or ones that are just plain whacked.

And, I've also come to the harsh reality that perhaps online dating just isn't my thing. Others have great success with it. Apparently not so much so for me. For instance, my boss at work is 10 years younger than I am, is skrawnier than all get out and has acne and he gets the hottest women winking at him every damn night..............and I'm talking multiple winks and some just flat out email him. I'm lucky I get 1 wink or email in a 6 month period. My luck just sucks.

So, I think the best thing for me to do is decide what it is I really and truly want...........whether that be an actual relationship or simple one night stand. And perhaps I should also seriously think about meeting women at other places aside from the internet. Either that or join the priest hood and take a permanent vow of celebacy..................

Well priests get more pussy than you make think. All the shit about alter boys is blown way out of proportion.

Your damn boss probably has that type of attitude that I was talking about. He probably gives em a take it or leave it attitude and it bugs the hell out of them because they see he aint pussy whipped yet. So hes a big challenge to them.

Ive always thought trying to meet people online was fucked up. Im sure it works for some people but I bet for most it dont. I could meet 20 women at restaurants or the place I work out and size them up faster than someone doing this online dating shit. They can lie out their ass online and your wasting valuable timing fucking with them then when you meet them they are as fucked up as JonPops spaceship friends out there in San Diego.

Listen to the girls and go join some clubs and organizations to meet somebody thats less fucked up than normal.

10 · 04-25-2008, 02:17 PM

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Well priests get more pussy than you make think. All the shit about alter boys is blown way out of proportion.

Your damn boss probably has that type of attitude that I was talking about. He probably gives em a take it or leave it attitude and it bugs the hell out of them because they see he aint pussy whipped yet. So hes a big challenge to them.

Ive always thought trying to meet people online was fucked up. Im sure it works for some people but I bet for most it dont. I could meet 20 women at restaurants or the place I work out and size them up faster than someone doing this online dating shit. They can lie out their ass online and your wasting valuable timing fucking with them then when you meet them they are as fucked up as JonPops spaceship friends out there in San Diego.

Listen to the girls and go join some clubs and organizations to meet somebody thats less fucked up than normal.

You know Maurice, I think you're absolutely right. This online shit is fucked up and I think I have wasted valuable time, effort and money on a service that just hasn't proven to be for me. Guess I should go back to the old fashioned method.

10 · 04-25-2008, 09:40 PM

I've had a total light bulb go off in my head about this online dating thing today. I'll share later..........gotta get to the job.

SonicCelt · 04-25-2008, 09:46 PM

I know....

eharmony

italiananglo69 · 04-26-2008, 12:56 AM

Nice Avatar Nikki

SonicCelt · 04-26-2008, 01:33 AM

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Nice Avatar Nikki

Absolutely! Even though it's a cartoon I'd still hit it

I love redheads.

italiananglo69 · 04-26-2008, 03:18 AM

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Absolutely! Even though it's a cartoon I'd still hit it

I love redheads.

I love a sexy redhead or auburn hair too. Not too fond of too many freckles though

10 · 04-26-2008, 08:06 AM

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I know....

eharmony

Oh, you so funny Mr. SonicCelt.........hahaha, you so funny indeed. Sorry, just being a smart ass

Actually Sonic, my revelation had something to do with a post you put out a couple weeks back about me just going out and enjoying myself. That's it! Get out, have fun with women, enjoy myself and just enjoy their company. IF, and that's a big IF, IF they want something more over time, they'll let me know................(women have a funny way of giving out hints and clues when they want more than just your friendship, looks and charm).

So, flirt, have fun, go out and enjoy the HELL out of my life. I took this dating thing to a huge extreme and was way too intense about it and it took you and some of my other buddy's and lady friends to help me see the light. I got it now. I was expecting every woman that winked at me wanted a potential relationship and that was strictly my bad. From now on, I'll take each wink or email as a casual, harmless flirt, see how good a friend they'd make and take it from there.

I also figured if it's simply straight up sex I want, well hell, the OC is crawling with sluts and whores who are willing to give it up to any guy that walks by.............I'll just go find me one, bring the condoms and have a blast......

happy stud · 04-27-2008, 01:07 PM

Id also say to take all the pressure off to just go with the attititude that nothings gonna happen so you can be yourself. So then you can fuck with em in the conversation and not be concerned if you should say this or say that. Since you aint expecting nothing to happen you can develop an I dont give a shit attitude and say whatever the hell you want. Works for me.

10 · 04-27-2008, 02:48 PM

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Id also say to take all the pressure off to just go with the attititude that nothings gonna happen so you can be yourself. So then you can fuck with em in the conversation and not be concerned if you should say this or say that. Since you aint expecting nothing to happen you can develop an I dont give a shit attitude and say whatever the hell you want. Works for me.

Another great point you make sir studly. And you're right on point too! The way I saw things, I was setting myself up for failure..............I didn't approach this whole thing right to begin with. I brought too much stress, pressure and intensity to the whole thing and that's where I TOTALLY fucked up. That's ok, I now know what I need to do. As you said, act like nothings going to come of it, be myself, say what comes to mind and go with the flow.

Although, I will admit, I did go onto match.com last night and read the profile of a 40 year old single mom of two little girls who's profile oddly enough mirrored my thoughts of the past 2 days to the letter "T". I'm sure it was probably just coincidence but because her profile was what it was and she actually is a very attractive, slender built, 5'5'' blond bombshell, I went for it and sent her an email.

happy stud · 04-27-2008, 07:46 PM

I still say you ought to let me send those damn e-mails. If I cant get you any pussy Im sure I can at least get some porn shots of em.

10 · 04-27-2008, 09:22 PM

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