I am a unhappily married man - Page 2

curly · 06-02-2008, 07:06 PM

Thanks guys a million for your helpful input. We are still undecided at this moment.

curly · 06-03-2008, 03:40 AM

She is reading a book on marriage now. I hope it's not a little too late.

StrokerAce69 · 06-03-2008, 04:40 AM

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Originally Posted by curly

She is reading a book on marriage now. I hope it's not a little too late.

That`s definetely a good sign. As hard as I know it is curly, give her space right now. Don`t totally ignore her, but don`t be all clingy and desperate (even though you may be feeling that way) .Nothing will turn her off faster. Hang in there bro.

lifted · 06-03-2008, 08:15 AM

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We have drifted apart over the years. She was a virgin when we married and she is a church going gal. She has never had a horny bone in her body. She can take sex or leave it and she leaves it , unless I really pursue her. To be honest with you, I'm tired of always making the first move. She weighs over 200 lbs. and I can't get her to lose weight. She always wears big panties and never , ever tries to turn me on. I am just about to give up hope. I have tried to love her and be good to her. I can't ever say the p word or the f word around her. She is all work and no play. I like to have fun and do things different sometimes. I can always predict the outcome of sex with her before we get started. She has had less than 5 orgasms this year. She maybe has had 2 or 3. Needless to say I have a very boring marriage to put it mildly.

Fish oil to increase sex drive (for her) wont hurt you either to take it.
Weight Watchers! Find common ground read the Bible to her. Try reading the Song of Solomon just happens to be a pretty sexy book.

People get fat becuase they have unresolved issues

MykzSoc · 06-03-2008, 09:12 PM

This is a tricky point but I think it is a possibility.

Our species has been civilized for what, a few or so thousand years? We’ve been homo sapiens for forty or fifty thousand years? Our species has had different roles for the two sexes and we’re still here today, so sex roles must have had some meaning for our survival. Go back in time and change that instinct or behaiour and we might not have made it to today.

I believe that in our core we respond to ancient insntincts though the greater brain can temper them, of course. No matter how practical it might seem to be able to club the woman of our dreams and drag her back to the condo and mate, it just isn’t practical in the modern world. It’s a no-no. However we modify our behaiours for survival for the times in which we life, quietly resound the basiic instincts from our past.

To a degree there are times that a woman wants to be dominated and times a man needs to be nurtured. Watch “Quest for Fire”, a spiritual quest for two kinds of fire and it says this better than I can express.

StrokerAce699 says it very well “... As hard as I know it is curly, give her space right now. Don`t totally ignore her, but don`t be all clingy and desperate (even though you may be feeling that way) .Nothing will turn her off faster. ...”

Stoker’s so right.

In another Thread was suggested this very point. Guys should not let a girl think he is desparate. Nothing sends a woman running like a desparate man. She needs to respect him.

So though clubbing is a thing of the past, or rather, we have found more effective clubbing means, flowers, friendly persisance, love and patience, perhaps; a man is a man through his strengths and the same with a woman through her strengths. Sometimes these manifestations echo some earlier yearning that seems out of date in our confused modern world but which still quell the inner beast in both members of our species.

Not being clingy and desperate speaks out from the far shadows of our past.

Cheers,
Myk

10 · 06-03-2008, 09:44 PM

Oh I don't know, I kind of like the idea of clubbing one over the head and draggin' her ass back to my cave ;)

StrokerAce69 · 06-04-2008, 05:15 AM

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Oh I don't know, I kind of like the idea of clubbing one over the head and draggin' her ass back to my cave ;)

Sorry B , but iv`e heard that`s the only way you can get ass.................

StrokerAce69 · 06-04-2008, 05:19 AM

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Originally Posted by MykzSoc

This is a tricky point but I think it is a possibility.

Our species has been civilized for what, a few or so thousand years? We’ve been homo sapiens for forty or fifty thousand years? Our species has had different roles for the two sexes and we’re still here today, so sex roles must have had some meaning for our survival. Go back in time and change that instinct or behaiour and we might not have made it to today.

I believe that in our core we respond to ancient insntincts though the greater brain can temper them, of course. No matter how practical it might seem to be able to club the woman of our dreams and drag her back to the condo and mate, it just isn’t practical in the modern world. It’s a no-no. However we modify our behaiours for survival for the times in which we life, quietly resound the basiic instincts from our past.

To a degree there are times that a woman wants to be dominated and times a man needs to be nurtured. Watch “Quest for Fire”, a spiritual quest for two kinds of fire and it says this better than I can express.

StrokerAce699 says it very well “... As hard as I know it is curly, give her space right now. Don`t totally ignore her, but don`t be all clingy and desperate (even though you may be feeling that way) .Nothing will turn her off faster. ...”

Stoker’s so right.

In another Thread was suggested this very point. Guys should not let a girl think he is desparate. Nothing sends a woman running like a desparate man. She needs to respect him.

So though clubbing is a thing of the past, or rather, we have found more effective clubbing means, flowers, friendly persisance, love and patience, perhaps; a man is a man through his strengths and the same with a woman through her strengths. Sometimes these manifestations echo some earlier yearning that seems out of date in our confused modern world but which still quell the inner beast in both members of our species.

Not being clingy and desperate speaks out from the far shadows of our past.

Cheers,
Myk

Not to make light of the subject but, Quest for fire DAMN! When caveman sneaks up behind the bitches at the water hole and doggy fucks them, That was fucking hot. Sorry I am a fick suck

10 · 06-04-2008, 07:56 AM

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Originally Posted by StrokerAce69

Not to make light of the subject but, Quest for fire DAMN! When caveman sneaks up behind the bitches at the water hole and doggy fucks them, That was fucking hot. Sorry I am a fick suck

YOU? A "fick suck" stroker?? Nah, never, I don't buy that...........

lifted · 06-04-2008, 09:05 AM

If a man acts too aloof it also Turns off the bitches. You have to be engaged in nuetrel. The ladies like a sensitive bastard to a point. Learn to alturnate alpa and beta male tendencies.

curly · 06-06-2008, 06:44 PM

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Originally Posted by lifted

Fish oil to increase sex drive (for her) wont hurt you either to take it.
Weight Watchers! Find common ground read the Bible to her. Try reading the Song of Solomon just happens to be a pretty sexy book.

People get fat becuase they have unresolved issues

She has tried fish oil and stuff the Doctor gave her. It didn't help.

W.M.P. · 06-06-2008, 08:42 PM

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Originally Posted by curly

She has tried fish oil and stuff the Doctor gave her. It didn't help.

How about exercising? Vigorous exercise several times a week raises all your "feel good" hormones, improves overal health, body composition and all kinds of other goodies that together contribute to a healthy libido.

JonPop · 06-06-2008, 09:51 PM

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I took her shopping today and took her out to dinner this evening. I also took her lunch at her work. We come home from dinner and she tried her new blue jeans on. I had the pm on for several hours today, so when I took it off I was nice and plump. I left my buttons open on my fly so the Mrs. could see some erect skin. I laid down on the bed on her pillow and watched her undress. Her breasts still turn me on. She never even acknowledged me. She put her pajamas on and went in the other room. It is always this way night after night after night. How much of this is a guy supposed to take?
And many times when I make the move, she is either tired or not in the mood or it is the wrong time. One day I was in a playful mood and I hid in the closet naked. I waited on her to come in, so I jump out to grab her and play. Needless to say I didn't get any that day.

I think all of the members that have tried to offer advice to Curly are just off the mark, as well intentioned as you are. You are not actually feeling his pain. I truly belive and Curly, you can correct me if I'm wrong, that this "Marriage" is not a marriage, this is two people living together under the same roof. She is not going to change and I don't think that Curly CAN change her, or Lord knows as hard as he has tried, he wouldn't have written this thread in the first place.

Curly, she is comfortable in her own little place. You are not included. When your Son leaves home for good, sell your house, take some time to get over the actual dissolution of a bad marrage and then make a new and exciting life for yourself.
You know in your heart that this is the best thing to do.
It is time to please yourself for a change.
Remember this, we are all here for you, whatever you decide. Best of luck to you buddy. JP

Loki · 06-06-2008, 11:55 PM

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Originally Posted by curly

She is reading a book on marriage now. I hope it's not a little too late.

Hey Curly;
Please, please, please call me!!!!!!!!!! I am a good listener!

Call me Sat. night.

Best Wishes-Dennis

10 · 06-07-2008, 02:04 AM

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Originally Posted by W.M.P.

How about exercising? Vigorous exercise several times a week raises all your "feel good" hormones, improves overal health, body composition and all kinds of other goodies that together contribute to a healthy libido.

Boy now aint this the damn truth. I've got the libido of a 15 year old and yet no one to unleash on.............yet.

Curly, I would seriously give JP's advice some consideration. You might really be trying to save a sinking ship here.

curly · 06-09-2008, 04:23 AM

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Originally Posted by JonPop

I think all of the members that have tried to offer advice to Curly are just off the mark, as well intentioned as you are. You are not actually feeling his pain. I truly belive and Curly, you can correct me if I'm wrong, that this "Marriage" is not a marriage, this is two people living together under the same roof. She is not going to change and I don't think that Curly CAN change her, or Lord knows as hard as he has tried, he wouldn't have written this thread in the first place.

Curly, she is comfortable in her own little place. You are not included. When your Son leaves home for good, sell your house, take some time to get over the actual dissolution of a bad marrage and then make a new and exciting life for yourself.
You know in your heart that this is the best thing to do.
It is time to please yourself for a change.
Remember this, we are all here for you, whatever you decide. Best of luck to you buddy. JP

This makes the most sense to me of all the posts.Thanks JP. I will keep you posted.

W.M.P. · 06-09-2008, 12:37 PM

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Originally Posted by JonPop

I think all of the members that have tried to offer advice to Curly are just off the mark, as well intentioned as you are. You are not actually feeling his pain. I truly belive and Curly, you can correct me if I'm wrong, that this "Marriage" is not a marriage, this is two people living together under the same roof. She is not going to change and I don't think that Curly CAN change her, or Lord knows as hard as he has tried, he wouldn't have written this thread in the first place.

Curly, she is comfortable in her own little place. You are not included. When your Son leaves home for good, sell your house, take some time to get over the actual dissolution of a bad marrage and then make a new and exciting life for yourself.
You know in your heart that this is the best thing to do.
It is time to please yourself for a change.
Remember this, we are all here for you, whatever you decide. Best of luck to you buddy. JP

This was my very point from the begining, so I hope the whole process goes as quickly as possible for you Curly, and may Life find you meeting a woman who will make your wish of enjoying your life in this world come true as soon as possible. Life is just too precious for you to spend the rest of your days like this.

curly · 06-15-2008, 02:53 PM

My wife said yesterday she wanted to proceed with the separation and put our house up for sale.

Loki · 06-15-2008, 03:06 PM

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Originally Posted by curly

My wife said yesterday she wanted to proceed with the separation and put our house up for sale.

I'm so sorry for you............... Not long ago I was where you are, how do you feel about all this?

bozoballz · 06-15-2008, 04:04 PM

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Originally Posted by JonPop

Curly, she is comfortable in her own little place. You are not included. When your Son leaves home for good, sell your house, take some time to get over the actual dissolution of a bad marrage and then make a new and exciting life for yourself.

Good deal JP. Too often we cling and hang onto things after they have already dissolved. Trying to bring it back to life like its some kind of Frankenstein's monster. Then our life essentially comes to a stand still... a festering morass where mosquitoes and decaying stench fills our nostrils. Where we grope for long lost happiness in the gloom and mud... but LO... LO the sun is shining bright just behind the steely clouds! Go git er'!

Okay I'm being facetious but you get the idea.

StrokerAce69 · 06-15-2008, 05:06 PM

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Originally Posted by curly

My wife said yesterday she wanted to proceed with the separation and put our house up for sale.

My thoughts are with you curly. Hang in there bro, I know this sounds contrite, but in 5 years this aint going to mean shit. You wont feel a thing. I KNOW it is painfull right now. Hang on.

JonPop · 06-15-2008, 06:16 PM

Well, curly. The decision is out of your hands. Don't stress. Use your head and think through every decision. Emotions will want to play a big part, so stay cool. Good Luck.

curly · 06-16-2008, 05:37 AM

Thanks everyone. I have something else to share. I recently met this beautiful 26 year old woman who is divorced and knew I was married. We talked a lot on the phone and had a lot in common. One time on the phone she told me I was shy. I thought maybe she was flirting with me. She told me she felt like I was holding back and not sharing everything I felt with her. We went out to eat a couple of times and hugged. She said later she didn't feel I wanted to leave her that night. I didn't. She acted like she wanted me to share more with her, so while we were having dinner I told her I had feelings for her. She said she knew that and if I hadn't told her she was gonna tell me. I don't know what happened, but she dropped me like a hot potato. She won't answer any of my phone calls or return them either. This has been about a month since I heard from her. It nearly devastated me because of my love for her. Women are sometimes hard to figure out.

stranger · 06-16-2008, 09:08 AM

Sounds like you're having a rough time at the moment.

I would suggest waiting until your personal life is sorted before you start looking for another woman.

And once you're ready to start looking, read The Game by Neil Strauss.

Women are indeed complicated creatures.

All the best with the separation.

Min'sGirl · 06-16-2008, 09:20 AM

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Originally Posted by curly

Thanks everyone. I have something else to share. I recently met this beautiful 26 year old woman who is divorced and knew I was married. We talked a lot on the phone and had a lot in common. One time on the phone she told me I was shy. I thought maybe she was flirting with me. She told me she felt like I was holding back and not sharing everything I felt with her. We went out to eat a couple of times and hugged. She said later she didn't feel I wanted to leave her that night. I didn't. She acted like she wanted me to share more with her, so while we were having dinner I told her I had feelings for her. She said she knew that and if I hadn't told her she was gonna tell me. I don't know what happened, but she dropped me like a hot potato. She won't answer any of my phone calls or return them either. This has been about a month since I heard from her. It nearly devastated me because of my love for her. Women are sometimes hard to figure out.

Insight: She wanted a friend, not a fling or more, and when you confirmed her "suspicions" that you had feelings for her, she probably felt it was best to end the friendship before she became "the other woman". Doesn't matter that she probably knew the direction your marriage was going, you are still married and she is probably one of those women that doesn't like to be intimately involved with a married man, no matter the state of his marriage. My guess is even more likely true if her marriage ended because of infidelity.