| When you love someone you actually care about that person. You put that person's needs in front of you own. And when you fuck you are fucking the whole person, not just a piece of ass. People need to be loved. Need to be cared for, nurtured. Then sex can become an expression of love... and THEN you can fuck like a couple of wild animals. ;)
I consider casual sex to be more like how animals do it. There is no real caring or warm feelings behind the act. Its just fucking. Satisfying one's own needs. That can be fun but it cheapens the whole thing. Now that doesn't mean you need to be totally in love with the person you are having sex with but at least know the person and LIKE them, respect their values, appreciate their good qualities, and dig their titties.
To sum up: Sex without love and caring is a more crude, course way to go about it where sex with love requires a certain level of sophistication. It requires some level of mastering ones own emotions and giving love and kindness as well as a stiff dick. |