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Originally Posted by wantItThicker To me sex and love are two different things, maybe its different for a lot of women, but I would think that most guys would feel as I do. Just being honest. |
What I am saying is at some point sex=love, love=sex. Love is an expression of sex and sex an expression of love. You can't pull the two apart.
However it starts with love. The ability to open your heart to others without becoming extremely attached or possessive etc... That might be the sticking point for most guys. They can't love without a feeling of ownership, they become extremely jealous if another man so much as glances at "their" woman. Thats not love, thats treating the woman like an object.
Most men probably don't know what its like to really open their hearts, probably viewed as some sort of weakness. And most women probably don't know what its like to be truly loved, they are used to be treated like an object or possession.
Sex then becomes some sort of ego driven conquest to show the girl how much a "man" one is by giving them orgasms and long hard boners instead of giving them their essence, their love. And the women are driven in the same way, they need a long, hard fuck reaching to the heights of their orgasm instead of what they really crave, to be loved... plus passionate, deep, hard, multi-orgasmic fucking. ;) :)
The missing piece in all this is genuine affection and true love. What good is all this if one is tossed away like a twinkie wrapper in the end? Leaves one feeling cheap and used, one loses ones self-worth and then, to feel better, looks for more sex as confirmation that they have worth. Then tossed away again and it starts all over but one notch deeper into losing ones worth completely.