| Not to change the subject but I been thinking about the initial topic. Even sex with someone you love can become casual and sex with someone you may not know very well can be loving. It comes down to the moment when two people engage in sex. If their thoughts are on the other, without pretense, full concentration on the other... making love to that person alone, no thought of "How am I doing?" etc then the sex can be very loving. It becomes more casual the more our thought strays to ourselves, or worse, if were using the person as a fantasy fuck. Also hard to have loving sex while drunk, thats usually just a sloppy fuck fest. The more a person thinks "me, me, me" or "I want this or that." or "What am I getting out of this." the more casual the sex. Not that thats BAD, its just not loving....
What ch'all think? |